Holidays And Proposals
Holidays are celebrated because they’re special times of the year. Certain times of the year bring certain atmospheres with them, such as an air of romance and love during Valentine’s Day, of joy, giving, and family for Christmas Day, and of generosity and strong bonds for Thanksgiving. Almost as a rule, these occasions should be spent with important people in your life, be they family, friends, or a special someone.
Expectations are always on the rise during holidays, since they’re usually the times of the year when people show what and how much they mean to each other. For the women who have been in stable relationships that have lasted longer than most, holidays are a great time for their partner to pop that long-awaited question.
There are some men who do pick the holidays out of the other days in the calendar since these are usually a time for gift giving and showing their loved ones how much they care for them.
The women feel really excited about the possibilities, of what his secret plans are. But don’t expect too much or of a particular course of events to open up before the holidays are over. The feeling of anticipation and thrill can be healthy for your relationship. The important thing to remember is that even if nothing happens after the holidays pass by, there shouldn’t be any reason for any disillusionment or arguments.
As the holidays draw nearer, women give out signals to their men about what they want. They may hint that they’re ready to commit. They may discuss topics such as weddings, intimate details, and the future. They may start daydreaming of him going down on one knee, holding out a ring, and asking for her hand in marriage.
Such expectations are fun to have, but they have a tendency to go overboard when you think about them too much. While some men do pick the holidays to propose to the woman in their lives, a great majority of the others don’t (or simply can’t). When these expectations take the forefront of your thoughts and emotions, he might start noticing that you’re unusually edgy as the holidays approach.
When you think your expectations are becoming too vivid, stop. Such expectations are unrealistic, and having these thoughts may make the holidays more stressful for both of you. Don’t let him think you’re “on the edge” by breathing down his neck. If he’s already stressed out by the holiday rush and would have to deal with your expectations at the same time, he might actually think of backing out of the relationship to keep from folding under the stress.
In the end, it’s better not to expect too much from the holidays. He may or may not ask you “the” question on a holiday date. Instead, just enjoy the moments you spend with him during the holidays. Give him time. Allow him to be plan out his moves by himself, and you’ll be in for a surprise when you least expect it. And the best part about it is that it could even be more special and romantic than on a holiday.
Aaron Adams specializes in relationship matters for women. Visit http://www.datingquestionsforwomen.com to find out how to talk to a resistant man about commitment.